Why can’t we be friends

This past week has been an interesting week to say the least. It has made me think a lot about how we treat each other and why. In my Church we do not have a paid ministry so every leadership position is filled by a volunteer. For the most part, you have certain obligations and responsibilities that are given to you, and you strive to fulfill them to the best of your ability. Some of these positions can be quite demanding while others not as much. Getting back to the point, in the last few weeks it has been difficult to see people complain about other people not being perfect in what was asked of them. It is hard to see someone who devotes 10 – 15 hours of service a week, be told by another who devotes 15 minutes, that they are not doing enough, or that they are not doing it right.

The bible teaches you to remove the beam (big) from your eye before you try to remove the mote (small) from another. Lately it feels like people have a beam in each eye, and then being totally blind, are trying to tell others about their motes. In case anyone is actually reading this from my congregation, let me make this clear, this is not a complaint about my congregation. This IS an observation of something I have seen in almost every aspect of my life, from church to work. From this observation I will be quick to note that I am not excluded from this group. So the problem is there, we are quick to judge others and we judge other harshly. If someone does not do something to your liking, you let them know about it, and harshly. All the while being 10 time more guilty of the same.

So the solution?

Simple, love one another as you love yourself. I will try not to go on and on about this because the answer really is that simple. If I truly love someone, then I am willing to look past their faults. It means that they can be imperfect and thats okay. On the flip side, it doesn’t mean we leave them to their faults either. But we extend a hand in friendship recognizing that we are not perfect either, and do all we can to help them while standing at their side. Not to be in a position above the person looking down at them and their faults. As I said before, I am not guiltless. The more I recognize how much I lack and strive to be better, the more I am able to recognize others in their struggle to do good. Instead of seeing how they failed, I am able to see how they tried. From there I can work to strengthen them so the next time they can succeed.

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Memories – Is it raining?

Memories can be a great thing in life. They can be hard as well, but, at least in my life I have far more good memories than bad ones. They help me through difficult times and find the strangest times to pop into my mind, giving me a laugh with no one knowing why. They can be silly or important, and more often than not, I find myself forgetting the ones I want to remember, and remembering those I wish I could forget.

One random fun memory that popped into my head just a moment ago. It happened when Kristen and I lived in our first apartment at Windemere. It all started with a drowsy husband (me) using the bathroom late at night. I went #1 and back to bed. Then, my drowsy wife (kristen) decided she needed to use the rest room, I think it was the next morning. Without looking she sat down onto a soaking wet toilet seat. She gave me such a hard time for it. I tried to think back that night, I had even sat down, it couldn’t be possible… could it?

The whole day she continued to tease me about it, every time I went to the bathroom, she brought it up (all in good fun). It wasn’t until the next day when again I found myself sitting on the seat when for no reason at all, and right between my legs I found the seat getting wetter and wetter. I sat back to see water dripping at a decent rate from the ceiling vent, situated perfectly above the toilet seat.

Long story short, the bathtub in the apartment directly above us had sprung a leak which followed the tubes of the vent and dropped perfectly onto the toilet seat. At least that is how I remember the story.

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Version Two of RecipeToDish.com

It seem crazy to think that in just one month it will have been 3 years since I started my little recipe sharing project. There have been many countless hours of programming, and many hours of cooking that have gone into bringing this website to life. At its inception, it provided the basic function of adding and sharing recipes. The second version brought a much needed face lift, and made it easier to share recipes with your friends. It also got past the 100 recipe mark.

Since the release of the second version, not much has happened. It has been more than a year since there have been any released updates. Life has brought me a new job, a new home, and new responsibilities. The list of features and updates has continued to grow and at a rate faster than I can keep up with.

Even with all of the business of life, I have not been sitting idly by. Or at least not completely. Over the last year and possibly longer I have worked on a complete redesign of RecipeToDish.com both visual and the code for it as well. I have learned a lot over the years as well as a lot from the initial two versions of r2d that have helped in building this third version. Currently I still have probably a few dedicated months left of programming before it will be ready for public use, but it is coming together very nicely. Hopefully life will continue to lend me free time to use up working on the new version.

Until its release, the current version is still running and does a fine job storing and sharing recipes. So if you haven’t decided to use it yet, feel free to join and add some recipes. New users and new recipes always helps to encourage me and remind me I am not wasting time. If you have ideas on how you would improve the current version, add a comment and let me know. Now is the time while I am still developing it.

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Gratitude #10

So today I find that I am very grateful and find comfort in the hope the gospel bring into my life!  A few weeks ago I had the opportunity to give a talk the Spanish branch on Hope and learned that, Hope is the assurance that God will fulfill all his promised blessing to us.  After a bad day at work I am praying for the Hope that better things are to come.  Sometimes I really don’t like my job and feel trapped and condemned to work there forever.  Sounds dramatic, I know!  But with the economy like it is, with very slim picking on jobs, combined with my sense of self worth……I just can’t see me being able to find anything better.

When I got home today I knelt in prayer to ask for a sense of Hope.  Hoping that the feelings of hope would come……I felt a reassurance from my Heavenly Father that good thing come to those who wait…..And he has many times promised me GREAT THINGS!  I know and have an assurance that the Lord will make good with ALL the promises he has given me as I keep in proper priority those things that are most important.  I am very GRATEFUL FOR HOPE!

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Gratitude #9

I am so very grateful for the relief society program! It truly is a society under the direction of the lord! I am grateful for the great women that I am able to come in contact with and know! :)

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Gratitude #8

So tonight we had such a fun activity for our Activity Day Girls night!  We had a Secret Service Spy night, the girls were in training to become agents of our Secret Service Agency.  To become an agent the girls had to go through a rigorous training of everyday chores relay style.  We had a blast!

Today I am grateful for all those wonderful girls that are in my group, and for a husband who is so full of wisdom and who is always good at putting things back into perspective!  So last night we had such a great time……and I also had a very good learning moment.  I have about 10 girls that come consistently, they are great girls but when you get so many of them together at once it has been hard for me to keep the girls on task.  One thing that I love about these girls is that they all have something to say…..they all want to feel important and loved.  I sometimes find it very overwhelming when I have 10 girls competing for my attention all at the same time!  It is also so hard to stay on task and get things accomplished in the short hour (45min) that we have for an activity.

I think the girls were having a great time, but when they are having fun ,they get more talkative and excited…..but it also makes it harder to keep things moving.  I told the girls over 5 times to sit down so that we could get started on the next portion of our activity.  When I could see that no one was listening I got upset with them, not crazy upset but I had to get a little firm with them.  Afterward I felt bad, there is just so much I want those girls to get out of these activities and because they are so talkative it is hard sometimes to get to the point of the activities and I always feel so rushed, like we never really accomplish what we need to.  I just want to much for the girls to feel of the spirit and have there testimonies strengthened while they are there.  I feel some days that I don’t even come close.

After talking with my husband about what happened he put somethings back into perspective for me.  I love him so much, he is a very wise, and when the time comes he is going to be a great father! Jason helped me to realize that sometime we can get so caught up in the program of things that we pass over or forget what is important.  I was thinking about my activities……I think sometimes I try too had to get too much done, and get too discouraged when things don’t go exactly how I plan.

These girls are so much fun, they love my attention.  When I first started activity days I took the time to listen to each of the girls when they talked to me.  When one girls was talking I gave her all of my undivided attention…..and as I look back at those times I think the girls had a closer connection to me, and I felt a closer connection to them.  Back then I felt like we didn’t accomplish anything so I changed how I did things, to get more done.  I don’t listen as intently and try and rush through the activities so we never really get to talk to the girls.

Looking back I find that I think we actually accomplished more by accomplishing less….if that makes sense?  The purpose of these activities is to get the girls to be strengthened by the spirit…..to feel the love that our heavenly father has for them.  I have come to learn that it isn’t always the, getting everything done in the activity I planned done, but it is providing a time where the girls can interact with each other, build lasting friendships, build a relationship of trust with a leader, feel the spirit and the love of the lord………and to do that sometime it means not to accomplish everything that I had planned for the girls.

These girls are so great, I have learned so much from them and I am so grateful for all of there strengths and testimonies! I hope that I can show them more fully the love and appreciation that I have for them.  I am also so grateful for Sister Granthum, my helper!  She is always so full of great ideas and works so hard to help me pull off the activities we plan!  She is great!

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Gratitude #7

I am so very grateful for warm snuggly blankets.  It has been a cold, windy day outside and my office is freezing.  I have to keep a space heater on all day just to keep my fingers from feeling like they are going to fall off!  right now I am sitting on the couch snuggled in a nice warm blanket and am loving it!  I am finally starting to feel warm!  The only other thing that would make this better would be a cup of hot coco!

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Gratitude #6

by Greg Olsen

The other day, on my way to work, I was stopped at a stop sign and looked out my window.  I saw the cutest little bird playing in the street and it made me think of how beautiful all of Gods creations are.  So today……I am Grateful for Gods Creations!  This little bird made me think about our Heavenly Fathers love for us.  My patriarchal blessing says “The lord, who even notices when a sparrow falls to the ground, he will especially watch over his own, and you are one of his.”

I am grateful to know that I am one of Gods Creations…..and not just any of his creations but his daughter!  I know and feel of his love daily and every time I get to enjoy the creations of this world I am reminded of his love for me.  He is there and will always guide and direct my life in the paths it need to go to receive all the blessings he has in store for me.

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Gratitude #5

I am grateful for Sleep!!!!!  It was late last night so I decided to go to sleep rather than write this post! :)

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Gratitude #4

For the second thing I am grateful for is the weekends, and spending quality time with Jason! I love to have that time off to catch up on things that I want and need to do. Most weekends have been pretty busy for us. This weekend however we had the chance to be lazy, and it was wonderful! I love spending time with my husband and so grateful for the days we have to spend together and relax!

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